How to Choose the Right Funeral Service in 5 Easy Steps

Who decides what should be a part of a funeral service? Each state has laws that specify who gets custody of a deceased person’s body. In most states, if the deceased person was married, the spouse will be in charge of arranging the burial service and disposition (what happens to the body).

The adult children will decide if there is no partner. If there is no surviving spouse and the children are minors, the deceased person’s parents will be held accountable. If both parents have passed away, siblings will be in charge of making decisions.

As you can see, there are many situations where “who decides” might get complicated. Additionally, be aware that the individual paying for the funeral will be entering into a contract with the entities providing the service, such as the funeral home, crematory, or cemetery. That person will thus possess the “power of the checkbook”. That authority entails a sizable amount of decision-making control.

The 5 measures listed below can help you ensure that the funeral will bring consolation to you and be something that your entire family recalls when you find yourself in the position of decision maker regarding the funeral of a family member.

  1. Recognize that even if you give it your all, there may be people who would have done things differently.
  2. Make a list of the “some” people that you truly want to win over.
  3. What is the one element that you would most like to see included in the funeral ceremony, please?

Select the person or people you want to accompany you to the negotiation conference. The negotiation conference is a difficult situation. Choose a funeral officiant who is a skilled communicator, supportive of you, and good at funeral services.

  1. When planning a funeral, think about the way you want to remember the deceased.
    • You need to decide the arrangement conference.
    • The funeral’s start time
    • where the service is provided.
    • Funeral service content and tone

Make a list of the questions you want to ask the funeral director while keeping your budget in mind. Reviewing any insurance plans or other financing sources that will be used to pay for the treatments you choose is a smart idea.

Take some time to check the schedule before the service day. Make sure the service you have planned is “correct” so that everything will go smoothly and be a special memory for you and your family.